Go Ahead, Make Him Happy
January 15, 2009
Almost every man I’ve ever talked to wants more sex, more support, more praise and less criticism from their partner. I could go on forever with a loooong list, but here are ten practical things to start with. What did I intentionally leave off the list? Squeezing your ass into ill-fitting lingerie and strutting around awkwardly in 6 inch heels.
Have sex more often. A lot more often. A man can have sex when he is tired, sick, or damn near dead. Men use sexual interaction as their main form of expression of affection.
Ask him to tell you some sexual fantasies that he wants to check off his list before he dies. Then fulfill the ones that aren’t too weird. Trust me; some of them will be weird. Don’t take offense at his weird ones or he won’t share any with you in the future.
For one weekend a month, have the “to do” list be sexual. Throw in your own requests.
Be amused and flattered when he constantly tries to get a glimpse of your naked body. He does it because he loves you.
When he is walking around naked, take notice as if he were a piece of art, a God, (ok, or your favorite fantasy man). He thinks he looks good all the time.
Stroke his ego in a genuine way. Men are big babies.
Support his sporting endeavors and be proud of any accomplishment in any sport or anything physical. In our hunter gatherer days the men who were the best warriors and hunters were the most desirable. Now, we have sports.
Praise him for little things that you wouldn’t think need to be mentioned. Remember, men are big babies and love praise.
When he does more around the house make a big deal about it even if he doesn’t return the favor. Remember, he probably thinks he is doing your job for you.
If he cooks for you, eat it, and praise the effort. He thinks he is a great cook.
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Seeing that you know how much we love lingerie, maybe you could buy some on your own (that isn’t ill-fitting) and give us a nice treat sometime. We really do not need to be babied, we’d prefer the lingerie!!
So Stackler, we have to model it, be uncomfortable (most are itchy), and buy it too? All a man has to do is show up. Where is our show?
Where is the list for the ladies?! Here we have Men, known to be the bigger and stronger of the sexes. The hunter – he is strong and imaginative (mainly sexually), will fight to the end if you spill his beer or dishonor his name, yet, we have to stroke the ego oh so gently or he becomes pouty and sensitive? Hello?? It’s tough enough with the real babies.
Okay,so men may respond that they do it for women all the time; you know, the proverbial fat question — men say they lie most of the time and say no to please the woman. Well men, you should damn well do that! We do not claim to be strong and imaginative and fight to the end in order to defend our name or save our beer, so our egos should be stroked
Stackler, I forgot to mention that I like that you do not need to be babied. However, many men do require extra attention and lingerie and that becomes exhausting for the woman.
So Sava, the reason women don’t get a list is b/c men, would gladly do it!! Then how would you get out of doing ours?? As for the lingerie, I apologize for making it sound like you should have to pay for it. I was just saying that you could pick out something that fits and doesn’t itch, we will be more than happy to pay for any lingerie you want.